My baby <3

Samantha is 19 weeks old today, or 4 months and 10 days if you prefer. :) Watching her grow and learn and change has been an amazing journey thus far - difficult at times, but one I am grateful for every day of my life.

I've decided to start journaling the things I love about my daughter, one for every week she's born. Maybe someday she'll look back on these things. Maybe not. Either way, my heart is full and I want to record my feelings.



What I Love About Samantha Joy

1. The way she looks all swaddled up in her sleep sack, arms held down, feet hidden inside the blanket, all snuggly and cozy.

2. How I used to sleep at night with her in the chair in the living room, her little face on my chest, because she had such a hard time with her reflux in the early weeks.

3. How I had to cushion her coming home from the hospital in her car seat during every turn because she was so tiny she couldn't hold herself up.

4. The way she "tap dances" in her swing when she's ready to play . . . even though sometimes Mommy has put her in the swing to take a nap. :)

5. The way her whiny cry sounds like she's saying "Maaaaaaaaaaaa, Mommmmmm, Maaaaamaaaaa," etc.

6. How she looks when she sucks her fingers - no thumb for her, she wants as many fingers in there at one time as she can possibly stuff in. :)

7. The way she snuggles against me when she's sleepy and lets me hold her close and kiss the top of her head.

8. The way she smells - especially after she's had a bath.

9. The "Friar Tuck" bald stripe on the back of her head where she's rubbed off all her hair.

10. Her "talking." Oh goodness, the sounds she makes - clicking her tongue, squeaking, the beginning of kissy-noises, or just general vocalization as she feels comfortable and wants to be part of the conversation around her.

11. Her smiles - she has several. Her crooked half-smile, the joyous grin she gives me when I get her up after a nap, like "I'm rested and ready to play! Thanks for coming for me!", or the way she catches my eye and holds my gaze for several seconds while smiling at me sweetly. That one doesn't happen as often but when it does, I know she's truly at peace and feeling loved.

12. The way she's learned to start splashing in the bathtub, and the startled look she gets when she splashes too hard and gets her face wet.

13. The way she reaches for me sometimes when I walk by her or sit close to her.

14. The way she takes my finger in her hand so tightly, all on her own, and won't let go.

15. How she reaches for her toys, and the joy she gets when she's able to play with them more independently.

16. How she opens her mouth when I get close to it with a bottle or her pacifier, all expectant of nourishment or comfort.

17. The way she sticks her feet way up in the air - sometimes to grab with her hands, sometimes just because, and sometimes, I swear, just to be difficult when her mom is trying to change her diaper.

18. How she's currently drooling over EVERYTHING because she wants to experience it by putting it in her mouth - her toys, her carrier, my fingers, her clothes . . . it's endless.

19. The observant way she watches everyone and everything. She's not the noisiest baby in social settings (though she can be when she's alone with us), but she takes in EVERYTHING around her. You can tell she's sorting it all out.



God - thank you for my child. I know she's on loan, and I'll do my best to do as You would have me do for her.

I'm in love again.

Details later, but for now, just wanted to announce the arrival of our beautiful Samantha Joy. She was born on May 20 at 4:41 p.m. and weighed 6 pounds, 13 ounces. She was 18 1/2 inches long.

SO many feelings to process . . . but the strongest right now is a feeling of being incredibly humbled. Thank you, God, for my little girl. I will strive to be worthy of such a gift all the days of my life.

I'm so done with this pregnancy.

Paging Mr. Hicks. Mr. Braxton Hicks.

Please meet your party in hell.

That is all.

Good-bye, fishies. :(

Today it was final. I went to the pet store and gave back my beloved fish. With the moving, baby coming, and general chaos I wasn't taking good enough care of them. I didn't want them to die on me, and I figured they'd have a better chance of being fed and paid attention to at the store.

Ok, I know, they're FISH. But I was kind of sad as I wished them good-bye. I've had most of them for a year, and they were my way of spending some of my nurturing energy during a time where I was feeling rather broken in the baby-having process. They gave me an outlet to learn about pets, take care of them, and watch them in their tank doing their fishy things on sleepless nights. They were a good way for me to cope and concentrate on something else for a while.

We'll likely get more fish when we're established here and Samantha's several months old. That'll be fun. Until then, bye Phoebe 1-8, Naomi, Minnie, Shadow, Colonel Pickering, Winthrop, Dodger, and I-really-need-to-name-that-little-guy. Thanks for helping me through this past year. :) Swim safely.

It's gotta be the belly.

So I've noticed something over the past few weeks. People, particularly of the male variety, are very friendly to me right now. Not in a drooling, breast-oogling way, but in a way that shows interest and a bit of friendly flirtation.

Now, to be perfectly rational, it could just be my vanity or my wish to be found attractive at 34 weeks pregnant. *laugh* But seriously - almost everywhere I go, some random guy starts grinning and chatting with me.

Now, four or so years ago, the reason for this extra attention was a little more obvious - I was down to my ideal weight, had a sensational hair stylist, wore attractive clothes, and felt AMAZING. I had people tell me that their teenage daughters commented to them that I was "so pretty" or even "hot." People looked at me a little longer, and went out of their way a little more frequently to help me. Classmates commented on how they wanted to look like me and all in all, I felt pretty damn gorgeous. (This isn't said to try to be a total narcissist - this was the first time in my life where I felt this way for months at a time and it was almost giddy feeling like I looked like I'd felt for most of my life)

Now, though? HAHAHA. Between the health problems over the past couple of years and now the pregnancy, I've put on (literally) about 80 pounds. None of my normal clothes fit me in the slightest, and my maternity clothes are too nice for me to wear around when I'm getting work done on the new house. So I'm usually in sweats with an elastic waistband and one of Kev's old t-shirts (one if not both of these items usually have paint or cleaning stuff on them), hair washed but not done up, no makeup, and slippers. I am not someone that people would normally look twice at, and I've noticed that, in the past, as I've gained weight I've become more and more "invisible" to most people around me.

Until the pregnant tummy showed up around 32 weeks. For a while it looked like it was maybe pregnancy and maybe just fat. Now though, it's obvious. And I love it. I love feeling my little girl inside of me, squirming and kicking and punching her mommy. I don't always love the pressure on my cervix or the toes wrapped around my ribs, but I love knowing that her little life is there and that I get to meet her soon.

So I don't know if my attitude has to do with it - but I've certainly been happy other days when I wasn't pregnant . . . So I really think there's some draw about having a pregnant-looking tummy. Men talk to me all the time now, even joining in my conversations that I'm having with other people. They smile at me and are extra friendly. Women - not so much. *laugh* But I get quite a bit of attention from workers and clerks and random guys on the street.

I mentioned this to my husband today and he grinned (I love the relationship we have) and said he could totally see it. He thinks it has something to do with the male instinct and that, subconsciously, me being with child makes a lot of men feel protective of me, in a way. I've never been exactly a shrinking violet, but I *have* needed a lot of extra help in the past few weeks with carrying items, scheduling things to be done in the house and so on. He thinks maybe there's some primal sense to being able to physically care for me right now that makes guys feel good.

The feminist part of myself isn't sure what to think about this. I've always taken a LOT of pride in being self sufficient and taking care of myself. It drives me batty, usually, when men take things out of my hands that I'm carrying or hold doors from me to try to be "chivalrous" when I'm standing there already. I hate not being listened to and for guys to try to do things for me after I've said "no thanks - I got it." And yet, with a physical need for the loss of this pride over the past few weeks, it seems to have boosted a lot of egos and brought guys happiness in some way. *laugh*

So, is it cultural, or primal? Am I sending off pregnancy pheromones, or is it that I'm truly more of a physical damsel in distress right now? Is it the weakness that makes me attractive, or the sense of duty men have in protecting a woman, or is it just that pregnant tummies are cute and make people happy?

I don't know. I'd love some ideas, though. This is a new phenomenon to me.

Yet another song - but I didn't write this one.

So, in other words, it's good. :D

I don't think this was ever meant to be a mother/baby song, but both times I've heard it now it speaks to me that way. It's called "Bless the Broken Road" by Rascal Flatts.



I set out on a narrow way many years ago
Hoping I would find true love along the broken road
But I got lost a time or two
Wiped my brow and kept pushing through
I couldn't see how every sign pointed straight to you

[Chorus:]
Every long lost dream led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like Northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you

I think about the years I spent just passing through
I'd like to have the time I lost and give it back to you
But you just smile and take my hand
You've been there you understand
It's all part of a grander plan that is coming true

[Chorus]

Now I'm just rolling home
Into my lover's arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you

That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you.





I don't really believe in fate, and I don't believe that what we went through with all the fertility issues, failed adoptions, severe hyperstimulation, and IVF processes was "planned out" to happen as it did. I don't see God as a sadist. But I'm awfully grateful for where we are now in the process, and recognize that without all the pain over the past several years, we wouldn't be where we are currently. I will always miss our sweet Ayana, and ache for all the lost time where we were childless and hopeless. But I am SO thrilled to have the opportunity I have now, to carry our beautiful baby girl and give birth to her (hopefully) next month. She's truly our miracle.

I wrote a song.

(To the tune of "Do Your Ears Hang Low?")

Does your baby sit low?
Does she wiggle to and fro?
Can you snuggle her a lot?
Can you feel her little toes?

Does she push right on your bladder
and then go BOINGY BOINGY BOING?
Does your baby sit low?





*bows* I know. I'm musically gifted. I'll sign autographs later. ;)